Impotent
Article by Paul Douglass
Impotent
What does 'impotent' mean?
Impotent is a terms that describes a man who has an inability to either get an erection, or to maintain that erection long enough for intercourse or other sexual activity to take place.
Usually, the term impotent will apply to a man who Is unable to get an erection (sexual stimulation, anticipation of sex, or sexual excitement is not enough for the impotent man to be able to get an erection), is unable to maintain an erection (the erection doesn’t last long enough for sexual intercourse or other sexual activity to take place) and/or is unable to penetrate during sex (the impotent man may achieve an erection before sex, but when he tries to penetrate his partner, he finds that his penis isn’t hard enough).
What makes a man impotent?
When a man becomes impotent, there are usually either physical and/or psychological reasons for him becomming impotent.
Psychological issues that can cause a man to become impotent include Anxiety, Stress, Boredom, Performance Anxiety, Unresolved Psychological Conflict, The Fear of Being Judged, Anticipation of Becomming Impotent, Worrying About Pregnancy, Remembering a Previous Time Where He Was Impotent, Worry About Using a Condom, Guilt, Upbringing, Depression, Relationship Problems, Lack of Self Confidence, Low Self-Worth and/or Tiredness.
Physical issues that can cause a man to become impotent include Injuries to the penis, the testicles or the nervous system, problems with the blood vessels and circulation to the penis, high cholesterol, smoking, diabetes, too much alcohol, obesity, drug use, and a lack of hormones can all cause, or contribute to a man becomming impotent.
When can a man become Impotent?
A man can become impotent at almost any age.
Many men are impotent from their very first sexual activity, whereas for other men, they will only become impotent much later in life, and in fact, being impotent can come and go over time, depending on the stresses and strains that the impotent man is experiencing in his life.
A man may find that he is only impotent in certain situations (such as when he isn't in the mood for sex, when he has stress from work, or money worries, or when he feels that his partner may judge him for his sexual performance.
What are the psychological issues that can cause a man to be impotent?
There a huge number of different psychological factors that can cause a man to become impotent... these can include:
- Anxiety – A man can become impotent at any time of his life, depending on external stresses and strains
- Stress – Again, stress can cause a man to become impotent at almost any time
- Boredom – Men can become impotent if their sexual partner is no longer attractive to them
- Performance Anxiety – A man may become impotent if he is worried about what his partner is going to think of him
- Unresolved Psychological Conflict – A person can become impotent because of previous experiences that the man hasn’t fully resolved (incidentally, ‘Pure’ Hypnoanalysis is an excellent treatment if this is causing the man to be impotent)
- The Fear of Being Judged – Men who fear being judged by their sexual partner can often become impotent simply due to the anticipatory anxiety of a sexual encounter
- Anticipation of Becomming Impotent – Sometimes, the man will be impotent because of the worry abouyt being able to maintain an erection long enough for sex to occur
- Worrying About Pregnancy – Particularly in young men, the worry of the girl becomming pregnant can be enough to cause him to be impotent
- Remembering a Previous Time Where He Was Impotent – If a man gets himself into a cycle of worrying about being impotent, the worry alone can cause him to be impotent
- Worry About Using a Condom – Again, often in young men, the worry of using a condom properly (or the thought of using a condom at all) can bring cause him to become impotent
- Guilt – A man can become impotent if he feels guilty about the sexual relationship (for example, when cheating on their wife, or starting a new sexual relationship after another has ended)
- Upbringing - Having grown up, for example, in an environment where sex was seen as ‘dirty’, or where sexuality was often suppressed or used to induce guilt
- Depression – Someone suffering from depression can become impotent when they are feeling depressed
- Relationship Problems – A man who is attempting to maintain a sex life with a partner which whom there are problems in the relationship as a whole can find that he can become impotent
- Lack of Self Confidence – If a man isn’t confident in his sexual performance, he may worry about how it is going to be, and this can cause him to become impotent
- Low Self-Worth – A man may become impotent if he has a low self worth, and feels he isn’t worthy of being in a sexual relationship with his partner
- Tiredness – For example, a man who works a lot of hours can become impotent due to exhaustion
What are the physical issues that can cause a man to be impotent?
While it’s clear that there are a lot of psychological issues that can cause a man to become impotent, the process of getting and maintaining an erection is still a physical one.
Injuries to the penis, the testicles or the nervous system, problems with the blood vessels and circulation to the penis, high cholesterol, smoking, diabetes, too much alcohol, obesity, drug use, and a lack of hormones can all cause, or contribute to a man becomming impotent.
If a man finds that he is often impotent, it's vital that he visits his doctor to confide that he feels impotent, and to see if there is any underlying physical cause of him being impotent.
Common issues that can cause a man to become impotent are smoking, and obesity.
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What should I do if I am impotent?
If you feel that you are impotent, there are many things that you can do to make yourself feel better, and less impotent..
- Realise that because you feel impotent, it doesn’t make you any ‘less of a man’ – In fact, be proud of the fact that you accept that you feel impotent, and that you are helping yourself to move on from it
- Talk to your partner about it. Sometimes, the stress of ‘what will she think of me’ may be contributing to you feeling impotent... talking about it with an understanding partner can help
- Tell your doctor (or healthcare professional) that you feel impotent.
- If you are a smoker, stop smoking, and if you are overweight (again under the guidance of your doctor), lose some weight.
- Understand that there can be many psychological reasons that you feel impotent, and that a professional therapist may be able to help you to overcome them. Don’t feel uncomfortable approaching a professional therapist... they deal with these sorts of things all the time.
Can hypnotherapy help if I am impotent?
Yes, if you feel impotent, and if there are psychological issues causing you to feel impotent, then the right kind of hypnotherapy can help greatly with your impotent feelings.
If you feel impotent because of anxiety, stress, or an unresolved psychological conflict for example, then a very effective form of hypnotherapy, known as ‘Pure’ Hypnoanalysis can help you to feel less impotent.
‘Pure’ Hypnoanalysis can help you to completely resolve these ‘underlying’ issues, so that rather than having a temporary respite from the impotent feelings, you can resolve the problem once and for all.
Article by Paul Douglass
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