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Impotent / Impotence

Impotence (sometimes called 'erectile dysfunction') is the inability to get or maintain an erection during sexual performance.

When someone feels impotent, it can have a massive effect on their life. Sexual impotence doesn't just affect someone during sex, it can damage their self-esteem and feelings of self worth, so overcoming a feeling of impotence can have a huge effect on someone's life...

Impotence can have both a psychological and/or physical cause. If you believe you have a psychological side to your impotence, then read on, because there are things that you can do to overcome it...

"Put simply, if there's a 'psychological' component to your sexual problem, then it's probably caused, or at least made worse, by the way you think about things.

For example, many men who have had an experience with a sexual problem in the past, often dread having 'it' happen again... they worry about it... think about it... and then worry some more! They can dread the prospect 'sex' rearing it's ugly head, because when it does, they know they've got to face up to the problem, and worry about 'it' happening all over again."

On this page, we'll look at...

What does 'impotent' mean?

Impotent is a terms that describes a man who has an inability to either get an erection, or to maintain that erection long enough for intercourse or other sexual activity to take place.

Usually, the term impotent will apply to a man who Is unable to get an erection (sexual stimulation, anticipation of sex, or sexual excitement is not enough for the impotent man to be able to get an erection), is unable to maintain an erection (the erection doesn't last long enough for sexual intercourse or other sexual activity to take place) and/or is unable to penetrate during sex (the impotent man may achieve an erection before sex, but when he tries to penetrate his partner, he finds that his penis isn't hard enough).

What makes a man impotent?

When a man becomes impotent, there are usually either physical and/or psychological reasons for him becoming impotent.

Psychological issues that can cause a man to become impotent include Anxiety, Stress, Boredom, Performance Anxiety, Unresolved Psychological Conflict, The Fear of Being Judged, Anticipation of becoming Impotent, Worrying About Pregnancy, Remembering a Previous Time Where He Was Impotent, Worry About Using a Condom, Guilt, Upbringing, Depression, Relationship Problems, Lack of Self Confidence, Low Self-Worth and/or Tiredness.

Fortunately, there are some very effective techniques that can be used to help with psychological impotence.

Physical issues that can cause a man to become impotent include Injuries to the penis, the testicles or the nervous system, problems with the blood vessels and circulation to the penis, high cholesterol, smoking, diabetes, too much alcohol, obesity, drug use, and a lack of hormones can all cause, or contribute to a man becoming impotent.

When can a man become Impotent?

A man can become impotent at almost any age.

Many men are impotent from their very first sexual activity, whereas for other men, they will only become impotent much later in life, and in fact, being impotent can come and go over time, depending on the stresses and strains that the impotent man is experiencing in his life.

A man may find that he is only impotent in certain situations (such as when he isn't in the mood for sex, when he has stress from work, or money worries, or when he feels that his partner may judge him for his sexual performance.

What are the psychological issues that can cause a man to be impotent?

Some of these possible causes are shown below. If you identify with any of the possible causes shown with an asterisk (*), then please see the section below about how to overcome impotence:

If impotence has a psychologcal side to it (i.e. isn't caused by a physical problem), then it can often be caused by the way that the man thinks about things in advance of sex itself (so called 'negative thoughts' or 'unhelpful thoughts').

This is sometimes called 'anticipatory anxiety', and can often be recognised by the man, because he either worries about sex in advance, or feels that his impotence is caused by some kind of 'mental block'.

What can I do to overcome impotence?

Overcoming impotence is much easier and simpler than it once was, as there are now some very good, simple techniques that you can use.

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